I read a book today - The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants by Ann Brashares. A story of four friends Tibby, Carmen, Bridget, and Lena. It is a gripping and well-written book about how close-knit friendship can be, how people who are so different can come to care so much about each other and be bound by the unsaid solemn vow of friendship.
Another of my favourite friendship series is Sex and The City. Samantha, Carrie, Miranda, and Charlotte are as different as four people can be, they disagree and yet, they stick around and be there for each other.
The more I watch and read such books and stories, I wonder where has friendship disappeared from real life. I don't have any close friends in the same city. They've moved, gotten married, moved on, grown out of friendship, stopped caring, or all of the above! The only friends I seem to have now are in distant cities. Thankfully there are a few who are still around (in cyber space or over the phone) and bother if I call them in distress. The rest make me wonder how soon before these ones become scarce too? Is this a quarter-life crisis, friends reduced to pleasant acquaintances? If yes, what is the mid-life crisis?
Is modern friendship just limited to a guest appearance in fiction?
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I agree, modern friendship is limited to guest apperances. As people become more mobile, they will make and lose friends. Even if they retain their older friends, the warmth in the relationship is gone with the distance. These friends may be there on your side when you need them, but on call. They would have no clue otherwise what is happening in your life. I think the best friend one can have is his spouse these days. Alas, people value their spouses so less than they ought to.
I totally agree on your views on friendship. I have been able to retain a couple of friends who know the minutest details of my life. I just dread the day when even these will turn into distant friendships, either because I get busy or they do. As about one's spouse, alas! what would single gals like me do!
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